SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE GUIDE

Marriage is the singular unit that seeks to protect the home. Many relationships outside of marriage think of self first and are tempted to ask the question...what's in it for me?

But the home is not self-seeking. It is not selfish or bias. It thinks of the other person. With all said and done, I will strongly advise you to really consider these pointers if you must save your marriage from falling apart.

DON’T BRING IN A THIRD PARTY. To save your marriage from hitting the rocks, never allow other people to intrude. That means not creating room for friends or families to come in between you and your spouse. Such friends or families could rather ruin your home than save it.

A great standard and reference point to saving your marriage can be seen in The Bible. The Book clearly states that the man and the woman ‘’shall become one’’ in marriage. It did not say they shall become ‘’two’’ (that includes your friends and other family members). And so, it is very important here to try and resolve your own issues together and keep other parties away.

NEVER ENTERTAIN GOSSIPS. To welcome gossips into your home could ruin a once cherished relationship. Make it a point of duty never to allow such idle talkers invade your home. Learn to be a confidante to your spouse and try your very best to make her your best friend.

LOVE IS THE ANSWER. Love is the one cord that holds your marriage together. Show me a man with so much of love inside of him, and I will show you the wisest of men. Love does not seek to protect one’s self but the other. When you love your spouse, you could see no wrong in all they do. Rather, you keep hoping in them to be better.

RESTORE A LOST LOVE 2

Hi,

Remember the article, Restore a Lost Love?

This is a continuation of the article. It may do you some good if you consider some of these pertinent questions.

1.      Q. What should I do if my spouse is resisting coming back?

A.    Be patient and think clearly. Ask yourself, “What is keeping her away? Could it be my fault?

Discuss with each other if possible. Give her a call if she's not keen on seeing your face. Drop an e-mail. On the contrary, if she is willing to discuss these things...Great!

 Invite her to lunch or dinner. Ah ha! You could take her to the movies (if she's movie freak).

Put on those clothes you think she likes.

Now try to be open minded as much as possible. Do not for a second think of flattering her- that stinks!

 Apologize if you may. Yes...you heard me right. Oh, just be some gentleman.

2.      Q. Can I confront my lover or spouse with issues that threatens the peace of the relationship?

A.    Dialogue is a rather soft word. Dialogue with them and express your fears. In all these, continue to love.

3.      Q. Is it possible to still love after the resentments?

A.    Sure. Because you are determined to get them back, you will do all it takes to achieve that. It may prove tough though. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a step, you know.Think of the good times and strive harder to come together.

If you could do these things, then you got nothing to worry about.

RESTORE A LOST LOVE

It is true that relationships break up on a daily basis. We watch TV and read about broken relationships in the newspapers every now and then. Good thing is that such relationships or marriages can actually be restored with a little extra effort on the part of the two ‘’love birds’’.

Statistic shows that one out of every ten crumbled relationships or marriages is restored. How appalling! Here are some of the most practical tips on how you could attempt to restore your relationship or marriage.

1.      Ensure you communicate at all times with each other. This is the most effective way to restore back your love.

2.      Get off your high horse. For once, do away with pride. Remember, pride goes before a fall. Admit it when you are wrong and apologize. Come to think of it...What if you're right? It still doesn't matter.

3.     Avoid anger as much as possible. If you are the angry type, try as much as possible to turn over a new leaf. Avoid argument as much as possible each time you talk to each other.

4.  Pay her a visit. When you go visiting, please carry along with you some roses or some gift she cherishes. You will be amazed at the healing effect this could do to the hurting.

A relationship or marriage is worth saving. Play by the rules and be at your best. Good luck.

5 TIPS TO SAFETY ONLINE DATING

It is pertinent to note that dating online is quite fun. Now get something straight. A great number of people just like to have fun but usually get bored when it comes to locating spots and hang-outs that are usually the resort for finding a lover. They therefore, result in the wrong choice of such lovers even when they meet. Or, perhaps, two people get involved in a relationship only to call it quits probably because the two of them are just incompatible. And so, you begin to scurry around once again for a “lover’’ that fits your fancy.  Also, it could be that your job demands so much from you that you hardly afford time to go on a date.

Whatever the reason, online dating has proven to be fun and real sometimes if you play the game according to the rules. Moreover, you can do that any time of the day. But, remember, you are dating someone you have never met in the physical. You have to put on your guard. In order to avoid ‘’opportunists’’ as the people that date online are mostly called, you have to be careful. Even though I may not have all the answers, I believe strongly that you have nothing to lose as you abide by them- your life is important, you know!

1.      You must remain anonymous. Don’t reveal your true identity, your home address, your e-mail address, telephone numbers, birthdays, your place of work, etc. during your early days of communication. When you do this, you prevent yourself from been taken for a minced meat.

2.      Always use alternative e-mail address(es) for dating. The person at the other end has no right whatsoever to know your e-mail address. Your privacy should be confidential.

3.      Ask questions and remember real good. During your telephone discussions or e-mail, ask questions and remember what exactly has been said at the other end of the line. This will give you a guideline whether or not the person stick to their word.

4.      Pay great attention to the above mentioned point.

5.      Of course, when you decide to meet it must be in a public place. Never create room to meet in a private place such as your home. Just stick to all these points and… Good luck!

Faithfulness in Marriage

Many may have kicked against the fact that there could still be faithfulness in marriage. However, a great many marriages are still found on the grounds of faithfulness.
This begins when the two people involved -usually the man and the woman- are joined together either in the court or church and they are pronounced husbamd and wife. This is the very beginning of mutual ties of both parties. Thereafter, both parties sit together and discuss their differences, usually their likes and dislikes; their fears, dreams and inspirations. Because they have vowed to love each other and "till death do us part", they do not allow give in to temptations of any sort that would wreck their home. Even in the face of challenges, they remain resolute and unshaken. Every mountain soon become a molehill each time they consider the relationship. Both parties refuse to look at the other person's fault and is determined to be the best husband or wife there can be.
A year rolls by…and then two, three, four. They continue to cherish one another.
Many relationships exists in this manner, with both parties giving their all into it.
Yours could be such. Give it a try, and please just love your spouse with all of your heart and consider him the best man in the entire world. Don’t let it die because it is priceless. It’s all you got.